Sunday, May 13, 2012

Mother's Day Buñuelos

On Mother's Day six years ago, I lost my son, my only child, to the war in Iraq. Every Mother's Day, since that day, I have felt unable to write for this blog about anything else besides what this loss has meant to me. How could I? Our children, for better or for worse, define who we are. At whatever age, they are the sun around which our lives revolve. The loss for me, then, has meant reworking the way I live my life, to find purpose, meaning and direction in the chaos. And to learn to find joy again.

So, on this Mother's Day, I think about my own mother and the gift of optimism that she left me. She taught me to persevere in the face of utter hopelessness. From Floria I also learned that there is a moment when one must not shy away from calling something what it is: she taught me to have the courage to speak the truth even when it's inconvenient to the listener, let alone to me; indeed, she taught me to fight for what is right. She taught me to dream, to believe in myself. My mother gave me my 'mother tongue,' Spanish, even though we were Americans living in Laredo. She understood it was our identity that no one could take away. I inherited from her that 'radar' to 'read' a person, that my son also displayed; a certain sixth sense to understand what someone is saying between the lines. Whatever I am today, I owe partly to her. But there is also much owed to my child, whose wisdom taught me so much. That is what motherhood does, it turns us into complex human beings who learn from the children that are entrusted to us for that brief moment in time.

For now, I am blessed with other people's children, these young children, my students, who look to me for guidance and consolation (and instruction in Spanish) for the short time they pass through my life. And there are the young adults whose lives are interwoven into the fabric of my life, who are more or less contemporaries of Alex and about whom I fuss and worry and offer solicited or unsolicited advice. Life goes on...if I look up from my laptop, out the window, I can see my little poet-philosopher Marine, an image on a ray of light, on this sun-dappled morning, nodding approvingly, smiling, holding out white roses for me, wishing me a perfect Mother's Day.  I'm still a mother, after all.

My recipe for buñuelos is my mother's who made them on occasions when my little friends came over. She would make them with lemonade for us. Enjoy








Mother's Day Buñuelos



Recipe Type: Dessert, postre

Author: Gilda Valdez Carbonaro

Prep time: 20 mins

Cook time: 10 mins

Total time: 30 mins

Serves: 6

Buñuelos should be light and airy. These fritters are best when you roll out the dough thinly and drop them into very hot oil. They make a perfect after-dinner dessert with tea, hot chocolate, or even a prosecco or dessert wine.

Ingredients
  • 1 egg

  • 2 cups flour

  • 1 tablespoon shortening

  • 1/2 cup water

  • 1 tablespoon sugar for dough

  • oil for deep frying

  • 2 tablespoons sugar per 1 tablespoon ground cinnamon for dusting
Instructions
  1. Mix the flour and sugar in a bowl.

  2. Make a well in the center of the flour and drop the egg and shortening.

  3. Mix well with your hands until it attains a corn meal consistency.

  4. Add the water a little bit at a time (you may not need it all) and knead until you have a pliable dough.

  5. Let the dough rest for about 1/2 hour in the refrigerator.

  6. Divide the dough into balls about 1/2 the size of golf balls and roll out thinly; or if it's easier, you can roll them out larger and cut into four wedges, but be sure to roll them out thinly on a floured surface.

  7. Heat oil in a skillet and fry the dough quickly on both sides until it is puffed up.

12 comments:

  1. Touching and wise.

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  2. Maria De Las CasasMay 13, 2012 at 9:35 AM

    Lovely.

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  3. so beautiful....you give me hope that there is never a reason to give up. Thank you Gilda,
    much love,
    Erin

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  4. Gilda Valdez CarbonaroMay 13, 2012 at 10:04 AM

    I've found that if one takes it (as in the recipe) one tablespoon at a time, that is to say, that if you take it all one day at a time, it's all manageable, and one can surely muster up hope for one day at a time. No, never a reason to give up. Love to you, too, Erin.

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  5. Gilda Valdez CarbonaroMay 13, 2012 at 10:04 AM

    Gracias, Carmen.

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  6. No tengo palabras, sólo oraciones por tu hijo, que seguro que desde una esquinita del cielo vela por ti y te cuida.
    Los buñuelos, buenísimos. Besos

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  7. Gilda Valdez CarbonaroMay 13, 2012 at 10:11 AM

    Thank you, Krsiti.

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  8. Gilda Valdez CarbonaroMay 13, 2012 at 10:19 AM

    Gracias, él está en todo lo que hago y todo lo que pienso, y siempre me pregunto que diría él sobre tantas cosas.

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  9. This morning I decided to stop by Gilda's on the way back from my walk.... Wasn't that one lucky decision? I got to try the delicious super fresh buñuelos and got some to go, too! Thank you, Gilda, I am glad I got to share this Mother's Day with you.

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  10. Gilda Valdez CarbonaroMay 13, 2012 at 9:46 PM

    Ania, I was so glad to share bunuelos with you on Mother's Day. Nothing like a brand new mother to inspire the buñuelo process.:)

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  11. Lovely post, my heart goes out to you.

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